Dr. Jim Judge--Love & Respect, Day 1, 2/27/11

Jim led a discussion on Love & Respect as a follow-up to last week's sermon from Ephesians. He asked the men to collectively answer two questions and the women to do the same. Below are the questions and answers as well as the video leading up to and following the group discussions:

Men:
1) In practical terms, what does being respected look like? (Think of everyday examples of actions or attitudes that make you feel respected. Think of things that you wish your wife would do that would make you feel more respected.)

Responses:

• Being encouraged and Words of Affirmation--especially when it relates to our job and being the provider
• Time to unwind at the end of the business day--when returning home, 5 minutes to change, take a deep breath and not have a load of responsibilities dropped on him right away.
• Wife asks husband for advice or help--Husband feels like the hero
• Rather than a honey-do list of demands, ask husband to help accomplish tasks/needs together.
• Be specific about needs rather than expecting husband to figure it out--(Husbands will fail miserably!)
• Allow husbands to help rather than trying to do it all on own
• When things get crazy, use a respectful tone
• Refrain from participating in male-bashing when with friends
• Don't contradict or clarify for husband when he is telling a story in front of others (especially children)

2) What are the barriers that prevent or curtail you demonstrating love to your wife? (What gets in the way?)

Responses:

• Demands of life/business--we give our first-fruits to work and our wife gets the leftovers
• Pride (husbands want to be in charge/not admit faults)
• Expectation level--afraid of setting bar too high
• Past hurts
• Taking advantage of unconditional love
• Miscommunication--example: Husband is trying to speak words of affirmation or do tasks to help, but it makes wife feel more inferior.
  

Women:
1) In practical terms, what does being loved look like? (Think of ever-day examples of actions that create a sense of being loved. Think of things you wish your husband did that would strengthen that sense of being loved.)

Responses:

• Husband understanding and catering to wife's love language--taking the time to ask her what her love language is and then making an effort in that direction
  
• Helping around the house, helping with kids, acts of service means a lot to some
  
• Giving gifts means a lot to some
  
• Husband having a "team-oriented" approach to raising kids makes the wife feel loved

2) What are the barriers that prevent or curtail you demonstrating respect for your husband? (What gets in the way?)

Responses:

• Pride
• "Old Married Stuff" -- hot topics in your marriage that create a negative undertone
  
• He doesn't listen to you
  
• When you feel alone (husband out of town) and you kept the house/kids together and don't feel like it was appreciated by him
• Work gets his best time/attitude
  

Dr. Jim Judge - Love & Respect Day 1 Part 1 - 2/27/2011 from Covenant WBC on Vimeo.

Dr. Jim Judge - Love & Respect Day 1 Part 2 - 2/27/2011 from Covenant WBC on Vimeo.

The Judges - Parenting Parts 1 and 2 - 2/20/2011

The Judges - Parenting Part 1 2-20-11 from Covenant WBC on Vimeo.

The Judges - Parenting Part 2 - 2/20/2011 from Covenant WBC on Vimeo.

Class Announcements February 20, 2011

Mission on Your Doorstep Conference
Friday, March 4, 7:00-9:00 pm
Saturday, March 5, 8:30 am-5:00 pm

Did you know that less than 10% of newcomers to the United States will be befriended by an American-let alone by a Christian. As Christians, we're citizens of God's Kingdom first and the United States second. The "Mission on Your Doorstep" conference will inspire and equip us all to welcome the stranger. Come explore life in the Kingdom without borders. For more info or to register, pick up a brochure at the Welcome Desk or visit www.MissionOnYourDoorstep.com.

Deadline Extended for Women's Retreat
Feb. 25-27, Hyatt Lodge in Oakbrook

MONDAY is your last opportunity to register for the day package for the Women's Retreat. This package offers everything the overnight package does except for the overnight stay and breakfast. The overnight registration has now closed. Register online at www.wheatonbible.org/Retreat_2011 or at the Welcome Desk. There will not be on-site registration.

Next Session of Begin@WBC
Sundays, March 6-27, 9:45-11:00 am, Upper 206

EquipU Reaching Your Hindu Neighbor
Wednesday, March 9, 6:45-8:00 pm, Chapel

Do Hindus worship one God or many? Most of us do not even understand the basics of this faith, much less how to share Jesus with our Hindu friends. Learn more about how we can best love our Hindu neighbors. We'll hear from Sam George, the Executive Director of Parivar International, a non-profit organization based in North America committed to serving Asian Indian families. He is also the author of Coconut Generation: Ministry to the Americanized Asian Indians.

The Newlywed Game - Hosted by The Judges - 2/13/2011

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Class Announcements February 13, 2011

Mission on Your Doorstep Conference
Friday, March 4, 7:00-9:00 pm
Saturday, March 5, 8:30 am-5:00 pm
Less than 10% of newcomers to the United States will be befriended by an American-let alone by a Christian. As Christians, we're citizens of God's Kingdom first and the United States second. The "Mission on Your Doorstep" conference will inspire and equip you to welcome the stranger and embrace those on the margins. For more info or to register, pick up a brochure at the Welcome Desk or visit www.MissionOnYourDoorstep.com.

Elder Nominating Committee Deadline
Sunday, Feb. 27
Our church is led by a Board of Elders with members who serve staggered three-year terms. Each year the congregation and current Elders jointly choose an Elder Nominating Committee consisting of 12 men and women. The committee evaluates, selects and presents one nominee for each Elder whose term will be ending that year. If you are a member and would like to submit a name, please review the summary of qualifications and nominating process available at the Welcome Desk or online. Submit names in writing or through email to Pastor Rob's Administrative Assistant Donna Stone, dstone@wheatonbible.org.

Begin@WBC Class
Sundays beginning March 6, 9:45-11:00 am, Upper 206
Whether you are a long time believer or new to the Christian faith, if you are just beginning your journey at Wheaton Bible Church, you will want to join us for Begin@WBC where you will meet new people, meet members of the Pastoral Staff and get to know the mission God has called us to as a community of faith: love God, grow together and reach the world.

EquipU Bringing My World to Christ
Wednesday, Feb. 16 & 23, 6:45-8:00 pm, Chapel
Do you want to share the Gospel with others, but find yourself tongue tied? Join Lon and Marie Allison for the Bringing My World to Christ workshop where you will develop three simple skills that will help you lovingly and confidently share the Lord with others. No need to register, just show up.

James Misner - 2/6/2011

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Class Announcements February 6, 2011

It's Not Too Early to Think About Carefest
Saturday, May 14
A note from Pastor Chris McElwee: Carefest is part of our mission to reach the world. Each year we send over 1000 people, along with about a dozen other churches to serve the community. This year we are making it as easy as possible for each AC to take a project. Contact Carefest Operations Coordinator, Mike Leavitt, for the project list and details, mjleavitt@gmail.com, 312.513.3094. We need to know what project (s) you are doing by February 22. Thank you for your servant heart and the impact your AC makes on our community.

Say Yes to Joy at the Women's Retreat
Feb. 25-27, Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook
There are only 1-1/2 weeks left to register for the women's retreat with special speaker, Ellie Lofaro. Register for the day only package for only $100 or go for the whole weekend. Registration will not be accepted after Feb. 16. Visit the registration table across from Chapter's bookstore today for more information. Space is limited. The retreat will now be a biannual, so don't miss this year!

WBC Missionaries Vic & Leslie Trautwein
Sunday morning, Global Outreach Center
Stop by and say hi and thank them for their service. Vic and Leslie serve with Kids Alive International in the Dominican Republic. Vic is the Director of Operations for Kids Alive in the D.R. Their goal is to help God rescue and transform the lives of impoverished, at risk children. Vic directs and advises with regard to the operation of the children's ministry sights in D.R. and Leslie provides medical advice and care for several sites.

EquipU Bringing My World to Christ
Wednesday, Feb. 9, 16 & 23, 6:45-8:00 pm, Chapel
Do you want to share the Gospel with others, but find yourself tongue tied? Join Lon and Marie Allison for the Bringing My World to Christ workshop where you will develop three simple skills that will help you lovingly and confidently share the Lord with others. No need to register, just show up.